r/NoStupidQuestions

Some of the details that have come out about the school include:

*West's incessant statements of antisemitism and hatred of black people.

*Students must eat only sushi, not allowed to bring own food.

*The only colours allowed are black and grey.

*No chairs or tables.

*No glass in the windows or skylights.

*Classes only on the ground floor, due to West being afraid of stairs.

*No janitors.

*No trash cans.

Overall, it's the kind of thing you can expect from a man who is clearly literally insane. What were those parents thinking?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

There was a terrorist attack in Russia today. A few days ago, the us embassy in Moscow announced that an imminent attack was planned.

The U.S. Embassy in Moscow said March 7 that it was “monitoring reports that extremists have imminent plans to target large gatherings” in the Russian capital, “to include concerts,” and urged U.S. citizens to avoid them.

Like if they lost all their homes because of chemotherapy or something

Hypothetically, someone called you "racist". What now?

"But I've never mistreated anybody because of their race!" isn't a strong defense.

"But I have <race> friends!" is a laughable defense.

Do I just roll over and cry or...?

I am in Canada, and here, everyone brings their own lunch or just goes out for lunch. The thing I don’t understand is why school lunch debt is such a big problem. Students can just bring their own food from home and not have to pay so much, can’t they?

Having 500 posts all saying "no, your sister is awful, you were 100% right" adds no value to any question.

I bought an offbrand Camelback for $30 at Dick's Sporting Goods like 2-3 years ago for a rave. I used it a few times since then but at some point it just ended up living in the trunk of my car, and then packed away in my closet, unused for several years.

Now yesterday I was cleaning out my closet and found the backpack. The water bladder is still filled up from when I last used it about 2 years ago. The bag itself looks relatively clear and clean, but I know a warm, dark and moist environment is basically black mold's best friend, so I am willing to bet the water bladder is contaminated with mold or something at this point.

So my questions are: Should I try to clean out and sanitize this water bladder to get it back in working order? I have some bleach I could use; if that's the right way to go what mixture of water/bleach should I use inside the bladder? Or should I not use bleach whatsoever since I'll eventually be drinking out of it?

Or, at this point does it make more sense to just replace the bladder entirely? I'd rather not go this path if I can save the $30-$40 it would cost to replace it.

Any advice is appreciated!

I was shocked to hear recently that it's very common for Japanese establishments to ban foreigners and that the working culture makes little to no attempt to hide disdain for foreign workers.

Is there truth to this, and if so, why?

I hear a lot about how many/some Chinese, Korean, Filipino despise Japan for its actions during WW2. Now, I am wondering if the same logic can be applied to Europe? Because I don't think I've heard of that happening before, but I am not European so I don't know ¯_(ツ)_/¯

I'm on hold at the moment and it said the estimated wait time is 25 minutes. How do they come to that number?

I just don't get it, why would you be against your own community?

Edit: Oh, this blew up! I would appreciate if the comments try not to say anything transphobic, okay? Not directed at anyone in particular, I just want to avoid that (I'm transgender lol)

I just don't get what I'm missing here. Granted I'm from a firmly blue state but what the hell is going on in the rest of the country that a fascist traitor is supported by 1/2 the country?? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills over here.

Is this something that someones actually managed to do?? obvs you couldn't keep it there because you couldnt breath but even for a second?

Around the time my son turned 10 —and shortly after his mom and I split up— he started identifying as they/them, non-binary, and using a gender-neutral (though more commonly feminine) variation of their name. At first, I thought it might be a phase, influenced in part by a few friends who also identify this way and the difficulties of their parents’ divorce. They are now twelve and a half, so this identity seems pretty hard-wired. I love my child unconditionally and want them to feel like they are free to be the person they are inside. But I will also confess that I am confused by the whole concept of identifying as non-binary, and how much of it is inherent vs. how much is the influence of peers and social media when it comes to teens and pre-teens. I don't say that to imply it's not a real identity; I'm just trying to understand it as someone from a generstion where non-binary people largely didn't feel safe in living their truth. Im also confused how much child continues to identify as N.B. while their friends have to progressed(?) to switching gender identifications.

I’m noticing more and more how some parents allow their kids to watch videos in the middle of a restaurant. Not only is this a missed opportunity to engage and teach them to sit still and self sooth, it’s even worse because it disturbs other restaurant patrons.

I have to wonder if I’m the only one that shakes my head at this.

I've always thought this but avoided the topic like the plague. My question is this:

Abortion has always been a heated and divisive topic could it be solved like this:

Think of a line graph that goes left to right:

1. Remove the people all the way at the far left with the opinion that noone should have any right to tell a woman what to do with her body including right up to birth. They make up a small overall percentage of the populous.

2. Remove the people all the way at the far right of the line with the opinion that another life has been created by God as soon as a man's sperm punches through a woman's egg and now a separate and distinct life has been created inside you. They also make up a small overall percentage of the populous.

3. Now we're left with the majority, and laws should represent the majority, not cater to the few. Next you debate over the when is a baby well, a baby. Week 5 - looks like a tadpole, more fish than human Week 6 - heart and circulatory system forms Week 7 - brain is partially formed neurons fire soon Week 8 - grows limbs, head, eyes, mouth (not full) Week 12 grows bones, skull, fingernails Week 16 eyes can move in socket Week 17 first movements can be detected by mother Week 26 6 mo. mark Brain is almost fully developed Week 26 6 mo. fetus can feel pain for the first time.

4. Now we all debate and then decide for ourselves at what point does a sperm that became a fetus now become a human life that can feel or has a soul or whatever you classify a fetus as an independent entity or human being?

5. Votes are cast and the nation has spoken. To me I only see this entire debate as WHEN can you have an abortion up to what time frame. That's it. While yes I am a republican and yes I am prochoice, I absolutely do not think that anyone should be having an abortion at 8.5 months. I also could care less if you use plan B or have an abortion after a month and it looks like a tadpole. Every person should figure out the time frame that they believe is ok. For me that's somewhere between 2 and 6 months. I'll say 4 months. Buy if I was voting on it I would research it more before making that my final answer.

6. Special wavers and exemptions. Since not every case is as easy and straightforward as we'd like. I would vote to add a special exemption clause. So if 4 months is the maximum time frame in a pregnancy to have an abortion than I would add a 30 day exemption with a waiver and doctors sign-off. These would be cases where a disease or abnormality is detected in the fetus, if it has say a tumor in its brain, or didn't develop correctly, or in cases where the pregnancy was from a rape. Then I would allow for a critical case exemption that goes up to 7 or 8 months maybe more but only in absolute life threatening situations or extremely rare cases where the mother could die by giving birth to the child, these exemptions would require a judge sign-off or something similar.

I know some people say any abortion after inception is murder and others that think a 8.5 month abortion is just fine. We need to note the main motivations of each side in the middle. The left side wants all choices on a womens body to be made only by her, which sounds logical but then we see that a main reasoning of the right side is that they wish to stop people from being lazy and using abotions in place of birth control, and find late stage abortions to be disturbing because they view the fetus as a baby at a certain point. While I'm pro-choice it still makes me sad knowing that something that looked just like a baby was taken out of her just because it took her so long to make up her mind but we need to stop giving the mic to these people, the silent majority, "us normal folk" need to take back this country and shut down the extremes on BOTH sides. Maybe this topic isn't as simple as my plan, what do you think? Why is it so cut and dry either for or against? What cutoff would you vote for, or is my plan just some stupid simpleton idea? If you don't agree in an agreed upon time frame, then please explain why (if no extenuating circumstances exist) is it ok to have one at any time? If this is you then please explain why that includes very late term abortions, why is an 8.5 month abortion acceptable and do you feel that maybe fighting for late term abortions could be hurting the overall acceptance of the procedure. I personally feel that lateterm is the main issue causing such a large divide on the two groups. I know for me personally, that is my only issue, and I never see that one topic EVER being covered. I think I represent the most common viewpoint in the US but maybe not seen as such because people with my views are the "silent majority" and all you hear are the 2 extremes of both sides.

For those of you saying late timeline abortions don't happen and a doctor would never do that, you are wrong. I just went to the planned parenthood website, it said there's no such thing as late term abortion, (symantics) then it said to find a clinic, click here, and enter my info and date of my missed period.
I entered that I'm 8 months pregnant and am a 14 year old girl living in my home state of NJ. It said I don't qualify for the pills BUT I do qualify for the operation and that there is no need for parental signature or even to tell them. It took me 20 seconds to find a clinic to give my 14 year old self an abortion from my 34 week pregnancy.. it said the only difference is that after 16 weeks they will need to dilate my uterus and the pain may be comparable to contractions and that the further along I am the more time the procesure will take and the more complex it may be. The point of my question was to see why a middle ground can never be found. It's seems the answer is because both extremes are unwilling to compromise, unwillinging to acknowledge what I believe is the largest point of contention, (even multiple people saying that doesnt even exist), and both sides are quick to shut down, not just the other side but also anyone asking questions... if you won't even address the concern from someone who's a pro-choice moderate, then this topic truly has no hope of ever being solved.

I’m a guy with a penis and so I have no concept how how bad a period can hurt, but from everything I’ve seen, it can certainly suck. I’ve seen those videos of guys getting the period pain simulated from those machines, and they seem to be in unbearable pain sometimes.

I do understand that some of them are painful but manageable, but I also know that sometimes it’s absolutely horrible and something a person shouldn’t have to feel. Like with endometriosis (I think that’s how you spell it).

So my question is, how do you guys accomplish anything during your periods? Especially the bad ones? You’re expected to just keep functioning as normal, i.e get groceries, go to work, etc. but, that seems like it’d be pretty difficult, so how do you manage to push through that pain?

Edit: God damn I was just trying to not leave out anyone the question affected. I should’ve said people with a uterus but a lot of people are mad I didn’t just say “women” so idk there was no winning it. Sorry if I offended you I guess, wasn’t my intention. But if you’re gonna be just straight up transphobic, Idgaf then.

Edit 2: thank you for all the answers, it’s been very enlightening. My wife used to suffer from terrible periods as well, but she’s been on the shot for awhile now and hasn’t had them in quite some time, but I’ve still had her answer this question for me as well, but I enjoy even more perspectives. I’m going to mute this thread now as I got my question answered and have 500+ notifications at this point, and the “you should’ve said women 🤢” are getting annoying at this point.

I mean without all the talking head media BS and propaganda. All I find is news commentary and them incessantly glorifying his stupid verbal assmouth vomit during the break. Isn't there just video of the actual trial?

My husband (29M) and I (28F) recently decided to start trying for a child. Since I lost my virginity in my teens, I have only had protected sex with a condom. So whenever my partner has ever finished, it has always been into a condom thus I never really had to deal with the mess that comes when someone finishes inside of me

Well, about a week ago when my husband and I decided to try for a baby, I did not realize how messy the whole ordeal is. After we finish, I lay in bed for a few mins to give his little swimmers some time to swim (I know it probs doesn't do anything but it helps my sanity). When I go to the bathroom to wipe the excess, there is SO MUCH. And I mean a lot. I'll wipe 3-4 times and it still feels like there's more. I even wipe my thighs with baby wipes because they get so sticky. Even after all the wiping, I have woken up the next morning with more stuff in my underwear. I wore a panty liner the last time and that helped protect my underwear, but still lots of stuff!

Any ladies have advice on what I can do after sex to minimize the mess? Or is this just the way of a woman's life?

EDIT: Thanks all for the advice! Sounds like taking a shower after or in the morning is the best way to go. We tend to have sex right before we sleep and I'm a night showerer so will just need to take 2 showers the day after sex. What a hassle! But such is life

EDIT 2: Wow, this blew up lmao. Thanks again for all the advice! And thanks to the stranger for the reward. I've gotten a lot of great tips on how to increase our chances of getting pregnant too so I appreciate it!

I’m not sure how to start or explain this… I haven’t shared this with anyone, as I’m hurt, embarrassed, and confused. I’ve been with my husband for 20 years, married for 15 of those years. My sister is my best friend, is beautiful and just an amazing person with a good heart.

A little back story… when I met my husband, my sister was single so I invited her to join my boyfriend and I frequently when we went out. We always had fun, I loved the fact that they got along, and I never felt like there was anything between them.

My sister ended up dating someone so we went out a lot as couples, and she got married two years after my husband and I. Although our husbands were never the best of friends, they got along well enough, and we had fun spending time together.

Fast forward to now… I noticed my husband talking very negatively about my brother in law (some of it warranted) and saying my sister could have done so much better. I don’t completely disagree, but she loves him, and her happiness is what matters to me. However, his dislike of my brother in law seemed to grow more intense and personal. It made me feel a bit uncomfortable, and I asked him why he was so concerned about my sister’s relationship, and then asked directly if he had feelings for her. He denied having any feelings outside of loving her like his own sister, and just felt like my brother in law was taking advantage of her (not working full time, her waiting on him). I accepted his explanation and put it out if my mind.

One morning I needed to use my husbands iPad to FaceTime because my phone was dead. When I opened the iPad I found a picture of my sister (from her Facebook page), which I thought was strange. As I looked through his iPad, I found a hidden picture album full of pictures of my sister. The pictures were mostly saved from things she had shared on social media, but there were some pictures and even videos that he had taken when we were all together or at family events that I didn’t even realize he had taken. They were all clearly focused on my sister and no one else. My heart jumped into my throat and tears filled my eyes. I didn’t say anything immediately because I had to gather myself and my thoughts, but I did ask him about the pictures the next day.

My husband was honest with me, told me he was ashamed of himself, but had found himself sexually attracted to my sister, especially after she lost weight (my sister an I have always both been plus size/curvy). Of course I cried, but he assured me nothing had happened, and that he loved me, not my sister. I do understand that we can’t control who we are attracted to, and we all have secret attractions and fantasies, so again, I tried to tell myself I was upset over nothing and tried to move past it.

Unfortunately, my husband continued his barrage of negative comments about my sister’s husband, and started asking me questions about her and her relationship with her husband. I told him it made me uncomfortable, and he would stop for awhile, but would always start again. It seems since he had been honest with me about his attraction he even started to share his thoughts about her body, comparing me to her and basically telling me it was his fantasy to have sex with her. Again, I know the difference between fantasy and reality, but told him my feelings were hurt and I didn’t want to know.

As time as has gone on, this has become a more constant issue between us, causing arguments. Recently, during an argument about this issue, i told him he knew us both before we were married, if he wanted her he should have made his move then. He was quiet, but eventually admitted he does think about what life would be like if he had been with and married her instead of me.

I feel like I’m going crazy. She has no idea of his feelings or the fact he has pictures of her (which he told me he deleted but didn’t). I have asked my husband to see a counselor with me and he said no, because the counselor will “take my side, and tell him he’s a freak”. He also told me that it doesn’t matter if we go to counseling or not, his attraction and feelings will NEVER change. He continually tells me he is committed to our marriage, but I also recently found out that he has sent some weird random texts to my sister asking if she wants to come over and have drinks with us. In the past I wouldn’t have thought anything about home texting to invite her over, but now I feel hurt that he is texting her while we are together, like he’s thinking about her when he is spending time with me.

My heart just hurts and I don’t know what to do. My sister and my husband are my confidants, but I feel like I can’t share this with her. What should I do? Is this something i should try to get past (my husband is a good man)? My head is swimming with thoughts and emotions and I am lost.

I‘m not a native speaker, so please explain why people don’t just say „I am xyz“ and instead say they identify as something, which is not just more complicated to say but to me always sounds like that’s what they one day randomly decided they are, which in most contexts it is used isn’t true (e.g. when someone says they identify as gay). So why not just say „I am…“?

Edit: I knew what kind of answers this question would draw out, and I’m sorry for that, but this helped me understand, so thank you to everyone who gave a serious, compassionate answer.