r/blackgirls

What is with this weird against self preservation behavior a lot of black girls and women seem to be engaging in all over social media?? Why have have I seen numerous threads pop up in my feed of black girls asking questions in mostly white subs about their perceived lack of desirability??? I was in the social science sub and why a black woman asked why we're the least Desirable group of women?? Tell me why that thread got the most responses out of every thread I've seen in that sub.

Like why are black woman all over the internet doing this corny, lame embarrassing ish all of a sudden? I thought we as a collective knew better than this. You got black women out here loudly pinning and begging for the attention of men who pay them dust. Admitting that they have no options and that no man wants them. Asking white racist strangers to rate them or to judge if their ugly or not. Like what the fuck is happening here?? Are they malfunctioning??

When I first started to to see this behavior happening I swore these were probably trolls or larpers but now im seeing picture and video evidence that these are indeed actual black women and girls. Wtf is going on with our demo?!! Why have so many of us become so whiney, insecure and embarassing and don't seem to give af either?? I need answers.

Genuine curiosity! Seems like black women and black men kinda hate each other now. We aren't progressing as a race

Can we stop allowing people to come on here only to ask about dating men of certain races?? For example posts like, “ Do Lithuanian men like Black women and how are they romantically” are so inane to me. Then you go to the comments and it’s full of racially motivated vitriol and ignorance. As Black people we should understand more than most that making sweeping statements made about an entire race based on stereotypes is wrong and harmful.

I’m not buying the products but the mini fro is cute.

I love Janet Jackson, she is the ultimate alt black girly who sexuality is truly unique. Till this day I still don’t think I’ve seen a female artist perform androgyny in such a spunky sensual way. She playful and not afraid to break barriers and the fact the she is a Black woman baby boomer giving us these things along the decades makes me a even bigger stan.

Or suspecting autistic? I realized as a child I had to learn how to fit in and act normal. It's hard when it's so there are so many stereotypes of black women and I realized I just don't fit in any one of them. I think I would just be straight up quiet as a way of masking sometimes because I couldn't figure out what to say or how to act.

It's really affecting me as an adult now and I feel like a straight up alien in social situations. I think people may expect me to be a certain way because of how I look and when I'm not they're disappointed. It's hard to find people that will accept me for me and I don't have any friends.

As many of you are aware, there are several ongoing global genocides, multiple in Africa and some in the Middle East. Yet, we only hear about one of them. Every single prominent SJW is only talking about that one issue, with pfps plastered with just that flag. When you bring up the obvious hypocrisy being displayed, you're hit with gaslighting tactics and accusations that your moral values are flawed. Some even go as far as claiming that "solidarity isn't conditional."

The reality is that solidarity has always been conditional and reliant on mutual benefit. True solidarity requires a shared commitment to addressing all injustices, not just those that are politically convenient or personally beneficial (social media clout). Another component that Ive noticed being dismissed from these discussions is black people who choose to not care about certain global conflicts due to the fact of those cultures/ groups being inherently anti black and racist, their feelings are valid and they should not be ostracized and bullied into "solidarity".

For me it's, hiking the trails, walking the beach, cooking, baking, watching romcoms, and reading.

I’ve noticed that anytime Black women talk about their shitty experience with nonblack men y’all rush to tell that Black Woman that she should have chosen a better nonblack men. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 It’s funny bc y’all sound like Black men telling Black women to choose better. Just a honest question, what do y’all get for having y’all’s head far up these nonblack men asses????

Which other shows give off similar relatable black women vibes like our beloved Insecure? Something bingeworthy please♥️. Movie recommendations are cool as well.

I noticed that fans would rather die than ship a black female character with a male character. Jumping through hoops like circus acts in order to avoid it. “I don’t see the chemistry” “They’re such platonic soulmates"

When a black girl is the main character in a book/show/movie & has two male characters fighting over her people would rather see the 2 male characters get together than be with her.

I love a Black girl that’s going to say what the fuck she wants to say and don’t give a fuck about pleasing anyone. She’s not trying to love anyone else but herself, she might even disagree with you just bc everyone is agreeing with you 🤣🤣🤣 she’s a trip but I love that type of woman.

I'm talking about those tweets on twitter that are like "only our community has baby mama drama" or "only black people care this much about hair length," etc. I think it would be better to remember that these things aren't particular to black people and if you think so then you should talk to people...outside your race. Sorry for the rant

Y’all please stop falling for these click bait ass post. Some of these people do not deserve your sympathy nor energy. Most are not even black women. Use your discernment.

I see beautiful black women in relationships with men who aren't ambitious, aren't working, leaving us single with children to raise. Don't get me wrong, I do also see black couples who are married but they seem like the minority.

Me and my girlfriends(28-33) mostly get hit on by men who don't have their ish together. Some aren't working, and some just want seggs. It's never educated professional men or simply 9 to 5 men who are decent and hard working. Have yall experienced this as black women?

How have your experience been dating as a black woman? I was reading a comment earlier in another groups post where one of the members said that "black women get the scraps" when it comes to dating. Do yall feel like that's true in general for us?

I went earlier to a new dentist to get a filling. Throughout the appointment, he kept trying to joke around, but I'm generally not bubbly, so I just awkwardly smiled. Then, he told his assistant to charge me extra for the X-ray. When he numbed me up, I mentioned that I'm scared of pain and asked him to numb me up more. He then started talking shit about me to his nurses in arabic, i speak full arabic so i was dumbfounded.. Unfortunately, I have to go back next week. What would you guys do in this situation? Would you bring it up next week? I genuinely dislike ar*b people.. its insane to me that these are the people that sjws gaslight us to support and jeopardize our livelihoods for

That’s it. That’s all I wanted to say. You can go on about your day.

I love my black beautiful women 😩yall are the best.

If you ever got your makeup done at Sephora, how was your experience? I'm planning on doing grad photos and with the total of getting my hair done, buying the scrubs (graduating nursing school lol) and the photos everything is going to be expensiveeee.

I’m tired of seeing the obsession with wigs and straightening them. Can we please bring back representing women that can wear their natural hair and feel confident. How can you say black girl magic when you wear wigs everyday and don’t feel confident wearing something that represents your blackness. I’m not saying stop wearing wigs but they don’t represent black woman!